Over the years I’ve learned a thing or two about dating; being invited to go to Europe to train with professionals does that to a guy. I’ve also learned that women see value in men the same way I see value in the world. It’s simple, as men deciding between Baywatch and Crime watch babes is simple. Simple is good. This is what women want.
There are three key aspects that women look for in men. Specifically, they want you to have control over these aspects – not necessarily have a lot of them.
The first is Health. First, health is part of how we select mates; you’d prefer to have a baby with a healthy girl than a leper. The way men show health is via their habits (go to the gym, play sports) and their appearance (muscle tone, skin care, hair and hair colour, and posture).
The second is Wealth. Wealth defines our ability to create value in the world; a comedian offers value by creating humour in crowds, a business person sells valuable products, and a government official ensures justice and safety. Someone incapable of creating wealth (value), or who steals value, is not a good mate. Men show wealth in many ways, but someone truly wealthy does not need to flaunt it; a comedian does not start his show by saying, “I’m funny.”
The third is Relationships. Relationships show how much others value us; for the same reason we drive through green lights instead of red lights, we trust people with strong relationships rather than bad or weak ones. Non-sexual relationships are built by the second point, wealth. You create value, which is happiness and opportunity, in people, and they become your friends; you would not be friends with someone who regularly stole from you. Men can show their relationships by being with valuable friends. To show strong relationships men have to be at the top of that social circle.
Since I’m working on a related website, I’ll leave you with something easy you can do to achieve “wealth.” Remember, wealth is creating value. Value can be happiness, and happiness can be free. So, find a beautiful girl who you’re interested in creating value for and send her a compliment. If she’s not a close friend, funny compliments are more appropriate; you don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. If you’re a girl reading this, I could really use your help! The section on compliments for guys is fairly empty. Guys need loving too!
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